Thursday, November 26, 2015

Clean Eating the Ketutar Way

My experience is that nothing works like cold turkey when it comes to changing habits. So you need to decide that you want to start clean eating and then do it.
Clean your home from everything edible and replace it with good food. Usually my diets fail because I'm hungry and I have nothing good to eat, so pasta it is. If I have no pasta at home BUT I have food that is quick to prepare and good for me, I will eat the good food.

Coffee, tea, soda, juice, milk, wine, what ever it is, replace it with water. It won't be pretty before your brain gets over the addiction to caffeine and sugar and aspartame and what ever, but it will be worth it.
Also, no flavored waters. If you don't want to drink it because it's "boring", you're not thirsty, and you shouldn't drink. It really is as easy as that.
All these "you should drink 2-3 litres of water every day" gurus are wrong.

The only exception is that if you need "sport drink" or some other such, DRINK MILK. No energy drinks or sportsdrinks or other such things. Milk or eat a banana. Or both.)

You don't need anything more than what is in fruits. No sugar, no raw sugar, no honey, no aspartame, no stevia.

Learn the different names of sweeteners. Like anything "-ose" or "-ol" is probably sugar in some form or another, which makes it a sweetener. (Now, this counts only in ingredients! There is lactose in milk and it's OK, there's fructose in fruits and berries and that's OK, it's only when they ADD lactose, fructose and other -oses in food when it is a sweetener and should be avoided.)

This means that you can't eat cured meats any more. There's sugar in curing brine. This means you can't eat sausage, ham, bacon... (Well... there ARE some varieties made without sugar. Read the labels.)

Refined wheat is... well, totally useless.
You can cut all grain and cereals. even things like quinoa and the other pseudocereals, to make it easier to stay on the right path, but it isn't necessary.

Try to use ingredients as fresh and unprocessed as you can. No ready-made meals or sauces or mixes and boxes and bags and cans. No freezer meals. No microwave food. The only processed food that is allowed is frozen ingredients, like frozen peas.

Have salsa in stead of ketchup. Add a pinch of mustard powder in stead of mustard. Learn how much you like. It can be potent :-D Most condiments are loaded with sugar, which is on "no-no" list.

You can make salad dressings if you want, as long as you don't use any sweeteners... which makes it sort of impossible to make some salad dressings like mayonnaise. ("But there's no sugar in mayo!" you might say. There's mustard in mayo, and sugar in mustard. So there is sugar in mayonnaise.)

It's easy to make vinaigrette. 
1 part of acid (like lemon juice or vinegar (any kind is OK); 2 parts of oil (like olive oil. It must be extra virgin and fresh. If your nose doesn't detect the slightly old flavor, your mouth will. A teaspoonful of fresh olive oil doesn't taste oily. If it does, it's not fresh.)
any extra flavoring if desired. Like salt and pepper, spices, herbs, onion... no mustard.

You can also use sourcream or greek yoghurt as salad dressing. Or cottage cheese. Or a squeeze of lemon. Some vinegar.

You can eat sweet potatoes, carrots, turnips, swedes, parsnip, pumpkin etc. etc. as much as you like. Most potato dishes can be made with these vegetables, and are better for you.

* I am OK with dairy, as long as it's not sweetened. All the cheeses are OK. Read the labels, though. There might be some sugar added to some of this stuff.

* I am OK with fat, as long as it's natural, like butter and virgin oils.

* Use locally produced, organic, ecological, sustainable, small companies, farmers' markets... Go as close to the producer as you can.

* Divide your eating between 6 A.M. and 6 P.M. You can basically eat anything [except sugar (sweetener) and white flour (and other starches)] during that time.
And be kind to yourself. Have a day every month when you allow yourself to eat anything you want to. You can even have a list of "forbidden foods" and then go buy all of it on your "pig day", and eat all you can. Just remember that next day you need to clean out all the left-overs. All of it.

* Find alternative to EVERYTHING BAKED. Like pizza. Sandwiches. Tortillas. Pancakes. Muffins. Cakes, pies, buns, doughnuts, cookies, biscuits, croutons, breadcrumbs, breading...
Your brain is just addicted to the combination of fat, sugar, salt and starch. We are programmed like that. You don't need any of it and will find life easier without them.

If you just HAVE TO get pizza, make a crustless pizza. That is, put all your desired toppings on a plate, put some grated cheese over it, and bake it in the oven as if it was a pizza, and eat it.

Eat a salad in stead of a sandwich. Just put all the meats and whatnots you want on your sandwich in a bowl with some lettuce. It is almost as satisfactory to your senses. If you want some crunch, add nuts. Use a lettuce leaf in stead of tortilla to wrap.
You can use nuts in stead of croutons and breading, too.

* Write a list of 20-30 different clean dishes you like
for breakfast
for dessert
for snack
for every other occasion you find it hard to eat clean.

You can get ideas online. USE them!



Get a list of foods you MAY eat, not food you may NOT eat.
Buy the house full of good, clean food.
Take some time to make some freezer meals ready that you can just take off the freezer in the morning and have a good, clean meal ready for dinner.
See that you have plenty of things to eat, to snack on, movie snacks, something to nibble - because that is going to be difficult, if you just find yourself wanting something one day and there's nothing snackable in the house. It will end with you wandering off to the closest store and buying some candy and other crap.

Sunday, November 22, 2015

An evil circle

I have feeling really bad lately.
The worse I feel, the worse I take care of myself, and the worse I feel...
It is an evil circle.
I have gained about 20 kilos this year. Some time last January I gave up and started eating what ever I wanted when I wanted. And apparently I wanted to eat sugar. I have been eating carbs the whole year.
It shows.
And it shows in my health as well. I have been aching more than before this whole year.
I hate myself.
And that shows in my dreams.
I have always been very easily influenced by my dreams.
Last night I dreamed I was on a summer camp, and they had planned this little game, where all the boys were in one group and all the girls in another, and then they'd pick randomly one girl and one thing to do, and I was to be kissed by one of the boys.
And not one wanted to do that.
I ran away and my sister-in-law ran after me and told me that maybe if I was nicer...
That it's my own fault no-one wants to kiss me.

I got up and was very determined to do something about this whole situation I'm living in, and I was sitting on the toilet when my tears started running down my face. I brushed my teeth and sobbed.

I can't imagine any reason why anyone would care about me.
I feel ugly and disgusting and worthless.

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Body shape

The quest to dress the hardest body shape

Spoon is like pear, with smaller upper body and wider hips, but the difference is that when a pear gets wider downward, the spoon hips don't. I suppose the difference is that a pear has normal or low hips and a normal or long waist, a spoon high hips and short waist.

These shapes are also called bell, triangle, A shape - these shapes are actually a bit different from both spoons and pears, as they don't have much of a waist.

Sometimes a spoon can be a bottom hourglass - if the short waist is very small and defined - but Spoon is NOT the same as figure 8. Figure 8 is to hourglass shape what spoon is to pear.
Hourglass - X - normal to long waist, normal to low hips - figure 8 - short waist, high hips
Sometimes figure 8 is also called a vase

The people with wider top than bottom are usually classified as inverted triangle or V-shaped or strawberries.

The people with wider top than bottom and a short waist/high hips are vases.
Wider top than bottom, a medium or long waist and medium or low hips - cornet or cone
the people with wider top than bottom, and a small, defined waist - top hourglass - cello
Broad shoulders and no waist - goblet

Then there are the straight people
Ruler or rectangle or H or I or boyish or straight or brick or column
lollipop is a straight figure with big boobs, and usually rather narrow shoulders.

apples are either
ovals (Not ellipse, but egg-shaped - top heavier than bottom, big waist - and with "top" one means shoulders)
or diamonds - top smaller than bottom, big waist - again, with "top" one means shoulders.
Both ovals and diamonds can have big boobs.
Now, I would rather define top heavy apples as apples and bottom heavy as eggs (or ovals), because we usually think of eggs as the wider part as bottom and the narrower as top.

And it is NOT about measurements! This is all about the SHAPE of the body, see from straight ahead or behind. This is a question of width of shoulders, chest, waist and hips; whether these shapes are connected with straight or curved lines and whether these lines are straight or tapered.
Start by seeing which part of your body is widest and which is narrowest. Normally people have smaller waist than chest and hips, even when one doesn't have much definition or when one does have a lot of belly.
Also, the length and shape of legs and arms and neck are totally irrelevant, as is the height of the person, whether the person is overweight or underweight, and everything else that's going on outside the torso. This is a question of shapes. A rectangle is a rectangle how wide it ever is, an ellipse is an ellipse, a triangle a triangle.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Flamboyant Natural from head to toes: clothes

SEPARATES are extremely exciting on you and should make up the bulk of your wardrobe. A mix-and-match effect is excellent, but be careful always to maintain an elongated vertical line with strong shoulders as the basis of your ensemble. Artfully mixing textures is especially effective.

JACKETS should be long, unconstructed and loose.
Relaxed cuts with broad padded shoulders are best.
Length should be from top of the thigh down (never shorter).
Simple oversized detail is best: large lapels or no lapels, big roomy pockets, easy double-breasted styles (worn open).

Severely tailored jackets.
Symmetrically tailored jackets.
Flouncy jackets.
Cropped, fitted jackets.

Jackets should be long, unconstructed and loose. Length should be from top of the thigh down (never shorter). Monochromatic schemes tend to be a little dull on you, although you may want to go with one major color that is accentuated by another bright shade.

Skirts should be long and straight but not severe.
Oversized and full skirts with deep folds are possible, as long as they are extreme, wide in shape, and worn with big tops.
Short straight skirts are fun and funky - again, worn with oversized tops.
Slits, pockets, kick pleats, buttons, plackets, etc, are good, but any draping or shirring should be kept low and loose (from the hips down) and no detail should ever inhibit mobility.
Hemlines are longish on straight skirts (except for funky minis, etc), and should fall at the top of the calf or longer.
Hemslines on full skirts are uneven and should be very long (bottom of the calf is the minimum length).

Long, pencil-slim styles.
Short symmetrical styles.
Flouncy styles.
Smooth, flared styles.

Pants should be roomy and full.
Man-tailored styles that are slightly wide and relaxed in construction.
Deep pleats, full pockets, and wide, soft cuffs are excellent detail, as are pocket-flaps and plackets.
Satiny evening pants that are wide and full are also excellent.

Sharply tailored and fitted pants.
Overly draped pants with tapered legs.

Blouses should be roomy and full with simple detail and relaxed construction.
Wide and horizontal cuts with clean necklines that are unrestricted are best.
Camisoles are very useful under jackets.

Severely tailored blouses.
Overly fitted blouses.
Overly ornate blouses with intricate or fussy detail.
Blouses with high, stiff or constricted necklines.

Sweaters should be long, roomy, and boldly cut.
Thick, heavy, rough, or ultraplush knits are best.
Longhaired or shaggy knits are also good.
Patterns should be bold and oversized.
Skinny knits should be extremely oversized.
All sweaters should have shoulder pads.

Lightweight, clingy knits.
Fluffy knits.
Cropped sweaters.
Symmetrical, fitted styles such as crew-necked shetlands.

DRESSES: Dresses should be bold and sweeping.
Broad shoulders and an elongated waist (usually dropped) are best.
They are relaxed in outline and shape, and may be either very narrow and slinky or wide and full cut.
Shirring, draping, applique, etc., should be kept low and executed in bold, abstract patterns.

Flouncy dresses with excess detail and ornate, fussy trim.
Severly tailored dresses.
Overly fitted dresses with crisp or animated detail.


Bold shapes with sweeping lines.Shoulder emphasis.
Easy necklines.
Bold prints.
Glitzy fabric.
Smooth fabric.
Slightly plush fabric.
Ultradrapable fabric (matte jersey, etc.)
Either minimal detail or bold, broad detail.

Broad-shoulder gowns with dropped waists
Widely cut, unconstructed gowns of draped fabric (matte jersey, silk, etc.)
Evening pants ensembles (long, bed jackets with wide-legged satin pajama pants, etc.)
Bare gowns with bold jewelry
Evening sarongs
Evening caftans
Evening sweater dresses with glitz


Flamboyant Natural from head to toes: accessories

ACCESSORIES:Accessories should be bold and angular with soft edges.

Shoes and bags, coming from the Yang side, should generally be angular.
However, once again we want to avoid sharp edges and keep the detail minimal.
Any unstructured shapes will always work best for you.

Shoes tailored and angular, but have soft edges instead of sharp ones.  (See how this translate to the soft edges in facial structure?)
Flats can be clean and simple or man-tailored and slightly funky.  Evening sandals should be very bare.

Overly delicate, strappy, and intricate shoes with trim. Plain pumps.

Should be large and unconstructed or large and cleanly tailored. Metallic box-shaped bags are excellent for evening. briefcases should be moderate width to elegantly narrow, and have firm construction.

Should be original and unique: sashes, ties, metallics, ropes, etc. Wide belts with extremely bold buckles (hand carved, asymmetric, etc) are possible.

Small symmetrical belts. Antique, intricate belts.

Should be Oversized, bold, and unconstructed. Fur hats should be large and shaggy.

Severe, man tailored styles. Small ornate styles. Crisp, perky hats.

A flesh toned stocking is your best bet for daytime, suited looks. Colored stockings are funky on you and give a wild, free, casual effect. Ribbed stockings , all textures, and vivid opaque colors are all excellent for fun. To retain your strong vertical silhouette, be sure to pick up the stocking color elsewhere in your outfit and accesories when you use the "bright leg" look. Dark, sheer stockings aer sexy in the evening on you, but they can seem overpowering during the day. Likewise, a light leg where the stocking and shoe are one or two shades lighter than the skirt can be elegant in a very special outfit (very "garden party") but it can be too fussy for everyday wear, as it will be too matronly on you!

Flamboyant Natural - Soft Yang w/Blunt Edges

Strong, straight bone structure that is elongated, wide, or broad; body type tends to muscular width or sinewy length; facial bones are strong and prominent but widely blunt or asymmetrical (not narrow and sharp); facial features are strong but narrow (not round and lush).

Bold geometrics with rounded edges.
Oversized asymmetrics with rounded edges.
Rectangles, oblongs, and irregular shapes.

Sharp-edged geometrics.
Ornate and intricate shapes.
Symmetrical shapes.

Unconstructed silhouettes. 
Bold, sweeping lines --elongated and straight.
Relaxed, unstructured outlines.
Strong vertical and horizontal lines (T-shaped).

Sharp, severe, or still silhouettes.
Hourglass silhouettes.
Symmetrical silhouettes.
Sharply straight lines.
Intricate, delicate lines.

Elongated vertical line with strong shoulders as the basis of your ensemble.

Texture in all weights, from very light to very heavy, is the most exciting way to express yourself through fabric.
A rough surface is always preferable to a flat surface.
Very shiny fabrics are excellent for evening, if the weight is kept to the heavy side (stiff satins, brocades, metallics, etc).
Daytime sheen should be in texture only (raw silk, shantung).
All leathers, suedes, and plush fabrics are excellent.
Draped fabrics must be ultrathick and heavy.
Knits should be thick, rough, bulky, heavy, or ultraplush.
Skinny and ribbed knits are possible in oversized garments.
Loosely woven fabrics.

Ultrasheer, flimsy or clingy fabrics.
Stiff, flat fabrics.
Tightly woven fabrics.
Delicate, shiny fabrics.


Detail should be bold, oversized, irregular, asymmetric, and relaxed.
Shoulders should always be broad and extended, but not particularly sharp.
Necklines should be loose and open, always unconfined (boatnecks, camisoles, simple slashes, oversized cowls, open notched collars, etc.).
Waist should be elongated.
A dropped waist does this best, although a "bloused-over" effect at the waist is also possible.
Be very careful with waist emphasis. It is rarely helpful to you, even if your waist is small, because it destroys the strong, vertical line that is the core of your silhouette.
Gathers, folds, sashes, etc., should be ultra deep and long--asymmetrical in shape, and low on the body--preferably from the hips down.
Sleeves should be simple and straight, or very full and sweeping.
They should always be unrestrictive to movement.
Pleats should be soft, low, and deep (inverted or kick-style, or stitched down through the midsection).
Trim should be bold, oversized, and asymmetrical or clean and minimal.

Sharp, tailored detail.
Severe, geometric detail.
Small, symmetrical detail.
Ornate, intricate detail.
Animated, "cute" detail (perky and crisp).
Your use of color should be bold and vivid, with rich, vibrant tones the most exciting intensities for you. Wild and unusual color combinations express your free spirit most effectively, although rich neutrals in those lush textures you wear so well are also nice, particularly if you use vivid accents. Monochromatic schemes tend to be a little dull on you, although you may want to go with one major color that is accentuated by another bright shade.

Multicolored splashes (too perky for you). Monochromatic schemes without vivid accessories. Dull colors unless they are executed in rich textures.

PRINTS should be bold and vivid, expressed in abstract geometrics, irregular shapes, or soft-edge asymmetrics. They should also have a blended edge as opposed to a sharp edge.
Color combinations should be dramatically vivid, but the colors should fade into each other instead of being crisply defined.
Wild animal prints, tropical prints, and any highly original motif that is both sophisticated and earthy, with a touch of wit, may all be used with ease.

Sharp geometrics.
Small symmetrical prints.
Watercolor florals.
Small, animated prints.
Intricate or ornate prints.

Flamboyant Natural example from Kibbe's book 'Metamorphosis'

Marcia is a large woman with big bones and slightly wide, blunt features, (strong Yang with blunt edges). When she came to my studio, she had some difficulty understanding that her largeness was an asset rather than the liability many Flamboyant Naturals are brainwashed into accepting as their lot. To me, largeness equals drama, and broad bones simply provide more room for displaying exciting clothes and accessories! I set out to help Marcia realize the stunning potential her strong physicality suggested.

My prescription for her metamorphosis: Create an appearance that is bold, free, and wild, filled with drama, life, and vitality. Her clothing shapes are strong geometrics with blunt edges (not sharp). Their outlines are relaxed and unconstructed, with sturdy accessories. Her jewelry is big, bulky, and extremely artistic. Lightweight textures layer well and give an exciting quality that adds enormous interest to the fabric.

Marcia's naturally curly hair is layered into a loose mane, lightly blown for maximum fullness and freedom, which is in keeping with her fresh and bold total look. Her hair had been tinted into a light strawberry, a few shades lighter than her original color. I felt she needed a bit more strength here, so we made the color slightly deeper and richer, turning it into a light auburn instead.

Marcia's makeup, chosen from a clear, yellow-based palette, complements her warm, vibrant coloring. The products are primarily matte, with smoky neutrals brightened by a hint of strong color and blended into softly angular shapes.

Vibrant, alive, bold, and filled with warmth and power, Marcia is now clearly visible as the joyous free spirit she truly is!